On the authority of Abu Huraira (may Allah be pleased with him) from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) who said, ” Whoever relieves a believer’s distress of the distressful aspects of this world, Allah will rescue him from a difficulty of the difficulties of the Hereafter. Whoever alleviates [the situation of] one in dire straits who cannot repay his debt, Allah will alleviate his lot in both this world and in the Hereafter. Whoever conceals [the faults of] a Muslims, Allah will conceal [his faults] in this life and the Hereafter. Allah is helping the servant as long as the servant is helping his brother. Whoever follows a path in order to seek knowledge thereby, Allah will make easy doe him, due to it, a path to Paradise. No people gather together in a house of the houses of Allah, reciting the Book of Allah and studying it among themselves, except that tranquility descended upon them, mercy covers them, the angels surround them and Allah makes mention of them to those in His presence. Whoever is slowed by his deeds will not be hastened forward by his lineage.” (Recorded in Muslim)
Watching a friend or someone you know going through a hardship can be hard, especially when you think that they will ask for help when they need it. The truth is many of us (even if we desperately need it) struggle to ask for help so hearing someone tell us to ‘let them know if you need help’ makes it worse. How many times have your friends taken you up on that offer?
Instead do what you can by listening, giving them a shoulder to cry on and doing whatever you are able to. This can be by way of helping them financially, making dua or even offering to watch the kids. As Muslims, we should strive to help each other, and remove any hardship that other is facing because Allah promises a reward far better – the removal of a difficulty from the difficulties of the Hereafter. With the advancement of technology we don’t even have to be close to the other person in order to help them. Here are some ideas for ways to help a friend local or distant.
If your friend needs financial assistance you can set up a GoFundMe page, and raise some funds for him/her by asking friends and family to donate. Setting up a gofundme page is not difficult but because they will take some service fees you can opt out and instead have a garage sale or bake sale and give all 100% the proceeds to the cause.
Cook a meal
I did not know about Mealtrain until I seen it pop up on my Facebook news-feed recently I thought it was such a brilliant way to organize. Especially for us as moms, we know how helpful it can be to not have to worry about dinner. Setting up a mealtrain is easy and free. You can share your mealtrain on social media and have others volunteer to cook for the family too and everyone will be able to coordinate days and dishes so your friend doesn’t have to “suffer” by eating the same dish for a week.
Keep an eye on the kids
The first thing any parent thinks about is if their kids are well taken care of, offering to help with arranging child care can be a huge weight off their shoulders. If you live close to your friend watching the kids for a couple hours can give them time to rest and focus on themselves instead of worrying about the kids.
Fill the fridge
Consider doing grocery shopping for your friend even if you are not local or don’t have the time to shop yourself there are services that are subscription based like amazon subscribe and save or Shipt (a delivery service) that will have it delivered to your friend.
Make sincere Dua
It starts with dua and it is a way to continue to offer help and support. Oftentimes, a lot of support will come pouring in the beginning, even to the point of being too much, and then it dwindles as people move on and get busy with their own lives again. Continuing to make dua helps you remember the person and we all know how powerful dua is.
Help with Housework
Depending on the situation, this can be super helpful. Offering to complete a to-do list might be just what your friend needs. Whether its doing the laundry, cleaning, hoovering or running errands this can be extremely important and will definitely be appreciated.
By the way anyone can do this for me anytime no need to wait until I’m in serious need 😁.
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